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Still Blooming: A Soft Life Guide to Menopause
May 28, 2025
Halle Berry’s menopause journey inspired me to write this. I’ve heard so many opinions about menopause growing up, even that it doesn’t exist and it’s just a product of your environment. That “environment” part? We’ll touch more on that in another blog. But what stood out to me most was how little softness is offered to women during this time. Halle’s honesty gave me permission to see this phase not as a loss, but as a sacred shift. A moment to listen deeper. To let go of shame. To become even more myself when that time comes for me.
For generations, women have been taught to quietly suffer through menopause, as if the physical and emotional shifts of this powerful life stage are just something to ‘get over.’ But the truth is, menopause is not a disappearance. It is a transformation. And like every transformation, it deserves care, reverence, and softness.
Up to 75% of women experience disruptive symptoms during menopause, including night sweats, anxiety, mood swings, joint pain, vaginal dryness, and brain fog. But here is the deeper issue: nearly 70% of those women never receive real support or treatment. Symptoms are often minimized or dismissed by healthcare providers, chalked up to ‘normal aging’ or emotional instability.
But the body does not lie and neither should we ignore it.
This Is Your Season of Power
Menopause is not a decline. It is a transition into deep feminine authority. A time when hormones like estrogen and progesterone fluctuate, but so does your wisdom, your sensuality, and your ability to move through the world with softer boundaries and deeper self-trust.
You have earned this softness.
It is not about staying young. It is about staying whole.
This is your call to pause, not disappear. This is a time to rewrite the story and reclaim menopause as a sacred rite of passage, a new beginning, not a slow fade.
Still a Soft Girl
Let us be very clear: you are still a soft girl. Yes, even during menopause. Even when your body feels foreign. Even when the nights are sweaty, and the mood swings hit like waves. You are still sensual. Still intuitive. Still magnetic.
Softness does not mean being delicate. It means being in tune with yourself.
It means choosing rest without guilt.
It means honoring your changing needs without apology.
It means still wearing silk robes, oiling your skin, and laughing during brunch.
It means touching your body like it still deserves pleasure, because it does.
In this stage, softness looks like boundaries, healing, and receiving. It looks like allowing your body to speak and actually listening. It looks like saying, ‘I have done enough. Now, I will be held.’
Because you do not lose your femininity in menopause. You meet it again, with less noise and more truth.
Soft Life Herbal Support for Menopause
Support your body gently with herbal allies that speak your body’s language:
– Dong Quai: Balances estrogen levels, reduces hot flashes, and supports energy and mood.
– Black Cohosh: Eases night sweats, hot flashes, and irritability.
– Red Clover: Supports hormonal balance and contains plant-based estrogens (phytoestrogens).
– Ashwagandha: Calms anxiety, balances cortisol, and improves sleep and libido.
– Chasteberry (Vitex): Helpful for balancing hormones during perimenopause and early menopause.
– Licorice Root: Supports adrenal health and hormone regulation (avoid if you have high blood pressure).
Sip it slow: Create a daily ritual around your tea, tincture, or supplement. Let it feel luxurious. Let it be love in a cup.
Vaginal Wellness After 40
Your vagina is not dry. It is asking for a little more attention.
Vaginal dryness, irritation, and discomfort during intimacy are common during menopause due to decreased estrogen. But that does not mean intimacy is over. It just means you shift your approach.
Try:
– Natural vulva oils and moisturizers
– Yoni steams with hormone-friendly herbs like rose, red clover, or calendula
– Pelvic floor exercises to enhance blood flow, tone, and pleasure
– Communication, sensuality deepens when you feel emotionally seen
You do not stop being sexy. You just learn a new language of desire.
Menopause Journal Prompts
Let your pen be your mirror and your medicine:
1. What messages have I absorbed about menopause from my culture, family, or media?
2. In what ways do I feel more powerful or more self-aware in this stage of life?
3. How has my relationship with my body changed, and what does she need from me now?
4. What do I want my menopause story to sound like when I tell it to the next generation?
5. Where do I need more softness, support, or surrender right now?
Affirmations for the Menopause Journey
– I am still whole. Still worthy. Still radiant.
– This change is not my ending. It is my evolution.
– My body is sacred through every season.
– I embrace new rhythms with grace and softness.
– There is power in my pause. There is wisdom in my warmth.
– I am still a soft girl,with more fire, more rest, and more truth.
Menopause Is a Public Health Issue, Not Just a Personal One
It is time we stop whispering about menopause and start recognizing it for what it truly is: a major women’s health issue that deserves full attention, funding, and support.
More than one billion women around the world will be in menopause by 2025. Yet menopause is still drastically under-researched, underfunded, and often left out of mainstream medical education. Most doctors receive little to no formal training on how to properly treat or support women through perimenopause or post-menopause.
This silence causes harm. Women are told to wait it out, toughen up, or just try hormone therapy without full explanations, holistic options, or emotional validation. And for women of color, the dismissal is often even more severe.
But menopause does not just affect women. It affects relationships, families, workplaces, and communities. When women cannot sleep, when their moods shift dramatically, when their sexual health is ignored, their entire quality of life is impacted. This is not just a personal journey. It is a collective one.
Insurance should cover menopause wellness. Period. That means access to hormone testing, therapy, pelvic floor physical therapy, herbal support, natural vaginal moisturizers, and more. Wellness is not a luxury. It is a necessity. And menopause care should be part of that conversation.
It is time to normalize menopause in public policy, workplace benefits, and wellness culture. Women do not shrink as they age. They expand. And every system around them should be expanding too.
The Beauty of Becoming
Menopause is not a crisis. It is a crescendo. It is your body saying: ‘I have nothing left to prove. I want to be soft now.’ You are not invisible. You are not less than. You are still a goddess in bloom.
I hope to live by these words when I put men on pause.. I joke lol. But seriously, Im learning from the women that have been here before me and they are getting me ready to start this next chapter in my life without fear.
Research Links:
https://www.axios.com/2025/03/03/menopause-doctors-education-harvard-mayo?utm_source=chatgpt.com
